Wednesday, December 19, 2012

-- The power of ♥ ~ IdleHearts

A poor boy loved a rich girl..
One day the boy proposed to her and the girl said.,

"Hey..! Listen.,
your monthly salary is my daily hand expenses..How can I be involved with you..?
How could you have thought of that..?
I can never love you..
So.,forget­­ about me & get engaged to someone else at your level"..

But somehow the boy could not forget her so easily..
Sometime 10 years later.,they stumbled into each other in a shopping mall..

The lady said.,"Hey..!Yo­­u..!How are you..?
Now I'm married and do you know how much my husband's salary is..?$15,700 per month..!

Can you believe that..?
And he is also very smart.."

The guy's eyes got wet with tears on hearing those words..
A few seconds later.,her husband came but before the lady could say a word.,her husband
seeing the guy.,said.,"Sir­­ you're here and you've met my wife.."

Then he said to his wife.,"This is my boss.,
I'm also one of those working on his $100 million project..
And do you know a fact my dear..? My boss loved a lady but he couldn't win her heart..
That's why he has remained unmarried..How lucky would that lady have been if she had married him..

These days.,who will love someone that much he said to his wife..
The lady looked in total shock but couldn't utter a word..

Life is so short and it's just like a mirror..
You can only see as much as it reflects..
So don't be too arrogant and proud of yourself by looking down on others
because situations change with time just like the weather..!
Don't under estimate anyone.,cos everyone has potential..!

Monday, December 17, 2012

How To Motivate Yourself – Self Motivation

Written by Editor in Chief, Pick The Brain -

Staying motivated is a struggle — our drive is constantly assaulted by negative thoughts and anxiety about the future. Everyone faces doubt and depression. What separates the highly successful is the ability to keep moving forward.

There is no simple solution for a lack of motivation. Even after beating it, the problem reappears at the first sign of failure. The key is understanding your thoughts and how they drive your emotions. By learning how to nurture motivating thoughts, neutralize negative ones, and focus on the task at hand, you can pull yourself out of a slump before it gains momentum.
Reasons We Lose Motivation

There are 3 primary reasons we lose motivation.

Lack of confidence – If you don’t believe you can succeed, what’s the point in trying?
Lack of focus – If you don’t know what you want, do you really want anything?
Lack of direction – If you don’t know what to do, how can you be motivated to do it?

How to Boost Confidence

The first motivation killer is a lack of confidence. When this happens to me, it’s usually because I’m focusing entirely on what I want and neglecting what I already have. When you only think about what you want, your mind creates explanations for why you aren’t getting it. This creates negative thoughts. Past failures, bad breaks, and personal weaknesses dominate your mind. You become jealous of your competitors and start making excuses for why you can’t succeed. In this state, you tend to make a bad impression, assume the worst about others, and lose self confidence.

The way to get out of this thought pattern is to focus on gratitude. Set aside time to focus on everything positive in your life. Make a mental list of your strengths, past successes, and current advantages. We tend to take our strengths for granted and dwell on our failures. By making an effort to feel grateful, you’ll realize how competent and successful you already are. This will rejuvenate your confidence and get you motivated to build on your current success.

It might sound strange that repeating things you already know can improve your mindset, but it’s amazingly effective. The mind distorts reality to confirm what it wants to believe. The more negatively you think, the more examples your mind will discover to confirm that belief. When you truly believe that you deserve success, your mind will generate ways to achieve it. The best way to bring success to yourself is to genuinely desire to create value for the rest of the world.
Developing Tangible Focus

The second motivation killer is a lack of focus. How often do you focus on what you don’t want, rather than on a concrete goal? We normally think in terms of fear. I’m afraid of being poor. I’m afraid no one will respect me. I’m afraid of being alone. The problem with this type of thinking is that fear alone isn’t actionable. Instead of doing something about our fear, it feeds on itself and drains our motivation.

If you’re caught up in fear based thinking, the first step is focusing that energy on a well defined goal. By defining a goal, you automatically define a set of actions. If you have a fear of poverty, create a plan to increase your income. It could be going back to school, obtaining a higher paying job, or developing a profitable website. The key is moving from an intangible desire to concrete, measurable steps.

By focusing your mind on a positive goal instead of an ambiguous fear, you put your brain to work. It instantly begins devising a plan for success. Instead of worrying about the future you start to do something about it. This is the first step in motivating yourself to take action. When know what you want, you become motivated to take action.
Developing Direction

The final piece in the motivational puzzle is direction. If focus means having an ultimate goal, direction is having a day-to-day strategy to achieve it. A lack of direction kills motivation because without an obvious next action we succumb to procrastination. An example of this is a person who wants to have a popular blog, but who spends more time reading posts about blogging than actually writing articles.

The key to finding direction is identifying the activities that lead to success. For every goal, there are activities that pay off and those that don’t. Make a list of all your activities and arrange them based on results. Then make a make an action plan that focuses on the activities that lead to big returns. To continue the example from above, a blogger’s list would look something like this:

Write content
Research relevant topics
Network with other bloggers
Optimize design and ad placements
Answer comments and email
Read other blogs

Keeping track of your most important tasks will direct your energy towards success. Without a constant reminder, it’s easy to waste entire days on filler activities like reading RSS feeds, email, and random web surfing.

When my motivation starts to wane, I regain direction by creating a plan that contains two positive actions. The first one should be a small task you’ve been meaning to do, while the second should be a long-term goal. I immediately do the smaller task. This creates positive momentum. After that I take the first step towards achieving the long-term goal. Doing this periodically is great for getting out of a slump, creating positive reinforcement, and getting long-term plans moving.

It’s inevitable that you’ll encounter periods of low energy, bad luck, and even the occasional failure. If you don’t discipline your mind, these minor speed bumps can turn into mental monsters. By being on guard against the top 3 motivation killers you can preserve your motivation and propel yourself to success.

Words of Erin Sheehan

My Life is My Message. I am a mother of such a precious little boy - I work sunrise til sunset. I practice buddhism. My religion is love. I practice yoga. My other car is a yoga mat. I practice mindful living. I am a vegetarian. I love life. I am blessed. Love fills my entire being... NAMASTE~

To live content with small means; to seek elegance rather than luxury; and refinement rather than fashion; to be worthy, not respectable; and wealthy, not rich; to enjoy more and analyze less; to listen to stars and birds and the sound of rain pouring and trees swinging, with open heart; to love wholeheartedly; live sincerely; give generously; to think quietly, act frankly, talk gently, await occasions, hurry never; in a word, to let the spiritual, unbidden and unconscious, grow up through the common --

-- this is my symphony ~


Whatever you can do, or think you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. ~ Goethe

"To understand karma, you must realize that thoughts are things. The very universe, in the final analysis, is composed not of matter but of consciousness. Matter responds, far more than most people realize, to the power of thought. For will power directs energy, and energy in turn acts upon matter. Matter, indeed, ...is energy." --Paramhansa Yogananda, The Essence of Self-Realization

There is something beyond our mind which abides in silence within our mind. It is the supreme mystery beyond thought...:

Hindu: Maitri Upanishad 6.19


Silence is a gateway to the inner life. As your mind becomes still, you enter more deeply into yourself. As you do so, the sense of your individual self fades and there is an awareness of oneness. You sense a Presence greater than yourself. This sense of Presence is a gift. It is like discovering water deep down in a well. Most people live their lives at a superficial level, occupied with the business of daily affairs. If you can empty your mind of these concerns, you gradually discover an inner peace and oneness with life. It is, as the Hindu scriptures say, "a supreme mystery." There is no need to name this reality. It is enough to taste the calm refreshment that this awareness offers.

The flexible are preserved unbroken.
~ Tao

Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul. It is daily admission of one's weakness. It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart.
~ Ghandi

I like sexual intercourse because of its amazing power of producing a celestial flood of emotion and exaltation of existence which, however momentary, gave me a sample of what may one day be the normal state of being for mankind in intellectual ecstasy.
~ George Bernard Shaw

The Seven Deadly Sins are wealth without work, pleasure without conscience, knowledge without character, business without morality, science without humanity, worship without sacrifice and politics without principle.
~ M. Ghandi

Happy, Happy, Happy Birthday Dear Daughter. You have been a joy to know for 26 years now. I'm sure God will bless you with endless years to come so that you can bring His love and happiness to those lucky enough to know you in their lifetime. talk to you tomorrow.
~ Dad 92808

I will cover you with love when next I see you, with caresses, with ecstasy. I want to gorge you with all the joys of the flesh, so that you faint and die. I want you to be amazed by me, and to confess to yourself that you had never even dreamed of such transports.... When you are old, I want you to recall those few hours, I want your dry bones to quiver with joy when you think of them. ~Gustave Flaubert, letter to wife Louise Colet, 15 August 1846

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. ~John Fitzgerald Kennedy

Devotion is more than just saying you love the Divine... You must become that love, see that love in all things, and be the act of loving.

A spiritual awakening, by definition, must include a shift in perception.

The Way to Change is to Change your Ways.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. ~ Denis Waitley

Sunday, December 16, 2012

Laziness: Why it Exists and How to Overcome Chronic Laziness by www.SixWise.com

Laziness: Why it Exists and How to Overcome Chronic Laziness
by www.SixWise.com

Australian researchers have identified a new condition characterized by extreme laziness: motivational deficiency disorder (MoDeD). MoDeD is far different from being a couch potato when you get home from work or sleeping in late on a Sunday morning. Instead, motivational deficiency disorder is described as overwhelming and debilitating apathy.

People with motivational deficiency disorder are more than just couch potatoes; they lack a desire to feel or do just about anything.

In cases when a person loses even the motivation to breathe, the condition can be fatal, researchers said.

Though the condition is thought to affect up to one in five Australians -- with an economic impact of $1.7 billion a year -- little is known about the causes of or treatments for motivational deficiency disorder.

"This disorder is poorly understood," says neurologist Leth Argos, who is one of the researchers that identified MoDeD. "It is underdiagnosed and undertreated."

What is Laziness?

Laziness, as defined by the Merriam Webster Online Dictionary, is a disinclination to activity or exertion. While we all feel lazy once in a while, someone who is suffering from extreme laziness would feel this way chronically.

Laziness is not an illness or a mental illness (unless it is the extreme form described above), but it can be a symptom of one, including:

Depression

Chronic fatigue syndrome

Schizophrenia

Laziness can also develop after a period of intense work or stress, and in this way may actually be the body's way of protecting itself and getting the rest it needs to recuperate.

Lazy or Just Not Motivated?

According to Mel Levine, M.D., a professor of pediatrics at the University of North Carolina Medical School and director of its Clinical Center for the Study of Development and Learning, the desire to be productive is universal.

However, a person's drive can become frustrated by various things -- causing a person to lose it altogether (until those dysfunctions are remedied). For instance, a child who has a language production dysfunction may not be able to express his or her thoughts and may give up. Or, a person whose ideas are constantly ignored at work may decide there is no point in trying.

"When we call someone lazy, we condemn a human being," writes Mel Levine in his book The Myth of Laziness.

"We gain energy and feel good about ourselves whenever our personal output wins the approval, the acceptance, the respect of our friends, our families, our bosses (or teachers) and, most of all, our self-critical selves," he continues.

Everyone deserves a lazy day once in a while, but if laziness is starting to interfere with your life, check out the five tips to overcome it below.

Levine believes that when a person's natural output is interrupted -- by failing to produce for whatever reason -- they have "output failure," a condition that is not laziness but is rather a neuro-developmental dysfunction (which could be anything from having trouble writing or speaking to lacking organizational skills). This can cause difficulties throughout adulthood if not remedied.

How to Overcome Laziness

If you or someone you know is experiencing chronic laziness, the following tips can help to get back on track.

Do something that motivates you. All too often, laziness stems from boredom or a complete disinterest in your daily tasks. If you don't feel that your work is rewarding, consider changing careers. Likewise, if your child isn't inherently motivated to do schoolwork, set up a reward system that gives him or her something to work toward. Also, if a particular task seems overwhelming to you or your child (and therefore causes you to not do it), take small steps to make the task more manageable.

Exercise. The more time that passes without taking action, the easier it is to fall into the laziness trap. Exercise is an excellent way to boost your energy levels and put you in a better mood -- so you're ready to face a new day head-on.

Rule out illness. If you lack the desire to do anything, you may be suffering from an illness such as depression or the newly defined motivational deficiency disorder. When laziness becomes chronic or overwhelming, you should talk to your health care provider.

Make a change in your life. Sometimes, just the routine of daily life can lead to laziness. If you feel your daily routine is turning into monotony, sign up for a class at your local community college, volunteer at your town's animal shelter or call up a friend to play tennis.

Surround yourself with supportive people. When laziness begins to set in, one of the worst things you can do is surround yourself with other lazy people. Instead, actively seek out people -- in both professional and personal settings -- who will support your ideas, encourage your success and embrace you as a person.

Monday, December 3, 2012

Tips Para Manatiling Active at Matalas ang Isip Kahit Oldies Na

Marami sa atin ang natatakot na mawala ang memorya o maging ulyanin habang nagkakaedad. Magagawa nating maging aktibo ang ating utak at mapanatili ang magandang kalidad ng buhay sa ilang paraan. Umpisahan sa tamang pagkain, nutrisyon, pisikal ang sosyal na aktibidad ay may nagagawa ito para maging alisto ang isipan. Ang mga brain game at mga pisikal na aktibidad ay kayang pagmatibay ng utak at nakatutulong kahit tumatanda ay aktibo pa rin ang kaisipan. MGA UGALING DAPAT BAGUHIN: 1. Maging optimistiko. Ang pagpasyahan kung paano damahin ang magandang umaga ang ddetermina ng ganda ng buo araw mo. Maari mong piliin na maging positibo sa lahat ng bagay. Tiyak na magiging maganda ang araw at dahil ang ugali ay iibayo, mas gagaan pa ang karakter. 2. Tapusin ang kalungkutan. Pangkaraniwang dahilan ng paghina ng isipang ito sa isang may edad. Magpakonsulta sa doktor, uminom ng gamot ayon sa inireseta at iwasan ang anumang depressants tulad ng sedatives at alcohol. 3. Lumahok sa volunteer group. Gumawa ng isang bagay na sa tingin mo ay makahulugan. Maging aktibo sa pakikihalubilo at makisama sa iba. PAKAININ ANG ISIPAN. 1. Sundin ang malulusog na diyeta upang mabawasan ang peligro ng sakit sa puso, mataas na presyon ng dugo at diabetes. Kung ikaw ay diabetes, sundin ang iniresitang dietary guidelines upang bumaba ang antas ng sugar. 2. Kumain ng pagkain na mataas sa antioxidants o kaya ay uminom ng supplements. Ang pagkaing mataas sa antioxidants ay nakatutulong para maproteksiyunan ang selyula ng utak at nakapagpapalusog sa ating isipan. 3. Uminom ng sapat na dami ng tubig upang mananatiling hydrated. Ang tubig ang nagpapanatili ng magandang sirkulasyon sa dugo at napakahalaga para sa aktibidad ng utak. Nagiging dahilan din ng pakalito ang dehydration kaya tiyakin na makaiinom ng sapat at mag-ehersisyo rin. IHERSISYO ANG ISIPAN. 1. Ihersisyo ang katawan. Totoo ang lumang kasabihan na "healthy body, healthy mind." Ang ehersisyo ay nakapagpapaapekto sa kabuuan ng kalusugan, kabilang na ang utak. Lumangoy, magbisikleta, maglakad, magsayaw, maghardin, mag-stretch o kaya ay magyoga upang manatiling malusog ang katawan at isipan. 2. Gawing aktibo ang isipan araw-araw. Maglaro ng trivia games, mag-crossword puzzle, word games o magbasa, araw-araw. 3. Simulan ang isang bagay na magbibigay-pagsubok sa isipan. Kumuha ng bagong pagkakaabalahan, matuto ng bagong lengguwahe o kaya ay family history. 4. Mag-weights o kaya ay buhahit ang mabibigat na grocery items sa bahay upang magkaroon ng strengthening exercises. 5. Buuin ang oras ng pagtulog sa gabi para sa sariwang paggising ng isipan at maging aktibo. 6. Maging tagapayo sa iba at ibahagi ang nalalaman sa kanila.