To : You
Date : Today
From : GOD - The Boss!
Subject : Yourself
Reference: Life
This is God. Today I will be handling all of your problems for you. I do not need your help. So have a nice day. I love you....
GOD
P.S.
and, remember...
If life happens to deliver a situation to you that you cannot handle, do not attempt to resolve it yourself!! Kindly put it in the SFGT (Something for God to do) box. I will get to it in my time. All situation will be resolve, but in my time, not yours.
P.S.S.
Once the matter is placed into the box, do not hold onto it by worrying about it. Instead, focus on all the wonderful things that are present in your life now.
If you find yourself stuck in traffic, don't despair. there are people in this world for whom driving is an unheard of privilege.
Should you have a bad day at work, think of the man who has been out of work for years.
Should you despair over a relationship gone bad, think of the person who has never known what it's like to love in return.
Should you grieve the passing of another weekend, think of the woman in dire straits, working twelve hours a day, seven days a week to feed her children.
Should your car break down, leaving you miles away from assistance, think of the paraplegic who would love the opportunity to take that walk.
Should you notice a new gray hair in the mirror, think of the cancer patient in chemo who wishes she had hair to examine.
Should you find yourself at a loss and pondering what is life all about, asking what is my purpose? Be thankful. There are those who didn't live long enough to get the opportunity.
Should you find yourself the victim of other people's bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities, remember, things could be worse. You could be one of them!
Should you decide to send this to a friend, thank you, you may have touched their life in ways you will never know!
Now, you have a nice day, God.
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Secrets To Raising A Reader
Love for books doesn't always happen at first sight. This is why it's very important for parents to get their kids interested in reading as early as possible. In his book Raising a Reader, author Paul Kropp says children need their parent's help to become a reader for life. "Without you, your child is unlikely to develop the attitudes that make reading easy and fun," Kropp stresses. Mastering the skill isn't your only reward. "Over the years, children will have good memories to treasure," a US Department of Education research says. "Parents are in a unique position to help children enjoy reading and see the value of it."
But finding the time for parent-child reading is equally crucial. Doing so, after all, seems like a tough task for parents who face the demands of career and family life. But experts say it can be done-and on a daily basis no less. These four tips will help you get going:
The earlier you start the better. Even infants can benefit from early exposure to reading. At just a few months, babies can recognize pictures, listen to voices, and point to objects. As your babies get older, they will eventually get accustomed to the rhythm and melody of language. Once your kids reach this level of awareness, learning how to read will be a picnic.
Make reading with your kids a daily habit. Motivate your kids and have them associate reading to fun. Great, meaningful stories are the best tools to advertise reading. Ma. Teresa Cancio Suplico's Olivia, the Octopus Princess* , for example, isn't only a colorful, imaginative children's story book, it also teaches values like true courage and friendship. Ideally, 15-30 minutes of reading is enough. "Your commitment should be for everyday so that the books you read will have some continuity," explains Kropp. "Reading time should become a habit for you, something that is expected by your child, an activity you both can anticipate with pleasure. Cuddling, talking, joking, asking and answering questions will make your reading time doubly enjoyable and enriching."
Regularly buy books for your child and yourself. There's something affirming about having books of one's own. Kropp says "most readers come from families with a wide assortment of books, magazines and newspapers around the house." a "print-rich" environment, he adds, highlights one true fact: Books are worth-reading. Owning books also leads to repetitive reading which promotes your kids reading skills. If money is a consideration, try to find alternative sources for good books. Letting your child choose which book to buy empowers him. Be supportive as much as you can.
Don't let television interfere with your kids' reading sked. Various studies say too much television stunts the intellectual development of children. Monitor your kids' viewing habits daily. Let your kids know that you've set up rules on TV watching so the gains they get from their regular reading time will not be wasted. "You have to stand up in the midst of all that [your kids' insistence to watch TV] and say no," notes Kropp. "No, the TV won't be on after 9:30pm. No, there is more to life than another Schwarzenegger movie. By doing that, you'll make sure there's time for reading in your child's life."
But finding the time for parent-child reading is equally crucial. Doing so, after all, seems like a tough task for parents who face the demands of career and family life. But experts say it can be done-and on a daily basis no less. These four tips will help you get going:
The earlier you start the better. Even infants can benefit from early exposure to reading. At just a few months, babies can recognize pictures, listen to voices, and point to objects. As your babies get older, they will eventually get accustomed to the rhythm and melody of language. Once your kids reach this level of awareness, learning how to read will be a picnic.
Make reading with your kids a daily habit. Motivate your kids and have them associate reading to fun. Great, meaningful stories are the best tools to advertise reading. Ma. Teresa Cancio Suplico's Olivia, the Octopus Princess* , for example, isn't only a colorful, imaginative children's story book, it also teaches values like true courage and friendship. Ideally, 15-30 minutes of reading is enough. "Your commitment should be for everyday so that the books you read will have some continuity," explains Kropp. "Reading time should become a habit for you, something that is expected by your child, an activity you both can anticipate with pleasure. Cuddling, talking, joking, asking and answering questions will make your reading time doubly enjoyable and enriching."
Regularly buy books for your child and yourself. There's something affirming about having books of one's own. Kropp says "most readers come from families with a wide assortment of books, magazines and newspapers around the house." a "print-rich" environment, he adds, highlights one true fact: Books are worth-reading. Owning books also leads to repetitive reading which promotes your kids reading skills. If money is a consideration, try to find alternative sources for good books. Letting your child choose which book to buy empowers him. Be supportive as much as you can.
Don't let television interfere with your kids' reading sked. Various studies say too much television stunts the intellectual development of children. Monitor your kids' viewing habits daily. Let your kids know that you've set up rules on TV watching so the gains they get from their regular reading time will not be wasted. "You have to stand up in the midst of all that [your kids' insistence to watch TV] and say no," notes Kropp. "No, the TV won't be on after 9:30pm. No, there is more to life than another Schwarzenegger movie. By doing that, you'll make sure there's time for reading in your child's life."
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Magpa Guwapa Ta...
Ang beauty ug ang happy life... Natural lang nga dunay mga problema sa kinabuhi. Wa tawo nga malibre ani. Pero ang importante, kamao kang mudala sa mga kaguol sa kinabuhi. Matud sa mga eksperto dunay mga paagi para maangkon ug happy life para di maapektuhan ang beauty ug kalawasan. Sunda ning mga tips:
1. Paglakaw-lakaw for 20-30mins ka minuto kada adlaw.
2. Duwa sa imong mga paboritong games.
3. Basa og maayong libro.
4. Katog og 8 hours kada adlaw.
5. Pag-gahin og panahon para mo praktis og meditation, yoga og pag-ampo.
6. Inom og daghang tubig.
7. Paninguha nga makapakatawa ka og at least duha ka tawo kada adlaw.
8. Ayaw usiki imong panahon sa pag-imbento ug paminaw sa tsismis.
9. Kalimti ang mga isyu sa kagahapon.
10. Itagana imong energy sa mga positibong buhat.
11. Paninguha nga mo smile ug mukatawa kanunay.
12. Mubo kaau ang kinabuhi para usikan lang sa paglagot sa usa ka tawo.
13. Ayaw ikumpara imung kinabuhi sa uban, wa ka masayod kung unsa sad ang ilang mga problema.
14. Pasayloa ang mga nakasala nimo.
15. Bisan dunay problema, bangon, pag.ilis ug buhata ang angay nimong buhaton.
16. Usik sa panahon ang pagsuya-suya.
17. Huna-hunaa kanunay nga "the best is yet to come."
18. Pasalamat sa Ginoo ig mata nimu kada adlaw.
19. Ayaw kalimti ang imong family, friends og mga paryente. Sila ang mo suporta nimu kung duna kay problema.
20. Matag adlaw, buhat og maau para sa uban.
1. Paglakaw-lakaw for 20-30mins ka minuto kada adlaw.
2. Duwa sa imong mga paboritong games.
3. Basa og maayong libro.
4. Katog og 8 hours kada adlaw.
5. Pag-gahin og panahon para mo praktis og meditation, yoga og pag-ampo.
6. Inom og daghang tubig.
7. Paninguha nga makapakatawa ka og at least duha ka tawo kada adlaw.
8. Ayaw usiki imong panahon sa pag-imbento ug paminaw sa tsismis.
9. Kalimti ang mga isyu sa kagahapon.
10. Itagana imong energy sa mga positibong buhat.
11. Paninguha nga mo smile ug mukatawa kanunay.
12. Mubo kaau ang kinabuhi para usikan lang sa paglagot sa usa ka tawo.
13. Ayaw ikumpara imung kinabuhi sa uban, wa ka masayod kung unsa sad ang ilang mga problema.
14. Pasayloa ang mga nakasala nimo.
15. Bisan dunay problema, bangon, pag.ilis ug buhata ang angay nimong buhaton.
16. Usik sa panahon ang pagsuya-suya.
17. Huna-hunaa kanunay nga "the best is yet to come."
18. Pasalamat sa Ginoo ig mata nimu kada adlaw.
19. Ayaw kalimti ang imong family, friends og mga paryente. Sila ang mo suporta nimu kung duna kay problema.
20. Matag adlaw, buhat og maau para sa uban.
Nothing can bring you peace except yourself....
"Nothing can bring you peace except yourself". This statement of Ralph Waldo Emerson reminds me of someone who is always at odss with everyone; either a family member, a friend or a neighbor. It seems that she is bitter towards the world and has hatred on every one. Then I realized that because of her marital problem, her husband left her for another woman, she has that negative emotional turmoil within her.
I feel sorry for her because she is not at peace with herself, especially towards the world. I feel that having this kind of demons within one's self makes one unhappy and miserable in life. I pity her because she does not realize that there are a lot of things in this world that she can be happy about and be thankful for, despite of the challenges that are thrown her away.
For me, there's nothing like having a peace within one's self. One can never truly enjoy the joys and beauty of life when one is robbed of inner peace. After all, we only pass this world but only once; so why deprived ourselves of that one treasure on earth? As Marcus Aurelius said, "He who lives in harmony within himself, lives in harmony with the universe".
Writer Henrick Edberg believes that inner peace is not that elusive. To attain inner peace, Edberg suggests the following ways.
SET LIMITS. If your life is filled with stuff you may need to set some limits, you have to stop doing some things which are not important to you.
DON'T MAKE MOUTAINS OUT OF MOLE HILLS. This can create unnecessary stress. When facing what looks like a mountain or big deal, ask yourself this question "Does someone on this planet has a worse problem than me? Wil this matter after 5 years?"
ACCEPT. Acceptance of others, like their looks, their beliefs, their behavior, their character; instead of harboring anger and resentment in your heart, can bring you inner peace and tranquility.
FORGIVE. Inner peace can be reached when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past. By accepting what it is; much easier to let go of things and to forgive of what had happened.
Forgiveness is important because as long as you don't forgive someone you are still linked to that person. You are always be bothered thinking on how that person has hurt you. The emotional link between the two of you is strong and inflict much suffering in you. When you forgive you do not only release the other person, but you also set yourself free.
DO WHAT YOU ENJOY. If you're happy of what you are doing, you'll like yourself and you'll attain inner peace. When you enjoy what you do, inner peace simultaneously follow. Having inner peace leads you in alignment to the outer world, more success in life is in the offing.
BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR INNER PEACE. Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and calmly in spririt. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset. Live in the present moment. Let not negative thinking about the future bothers you. It's one of the greatest culprits that can rob you of your inner peace.
I feel sorry for her because she is not at peace with herself, especially towards the world. I feel that having this kind of demons within one's self makes one unhappy and miserable in life. I pity her because she does not realize that there are a lot of things in this world that she can be happy about and be thankful for, despite of the challenges that are thrown her away.
For me, there's nothing like having a peace within one's self. One can never truly enjoy the joys and beauty of life when one is robbed of inner peace. After all, we only pass this world but only once; so why deprived ourselves of that one treasure on earth? As Marcus Aurelius said, "He who lives in harmony within himself, lives in harmony with the universe".
Writer Henrick Edberg believes that inner peace is not that elusive. To attain inner peace, Edberg suggests the following ways.
SET LIMITS. If your life is filled with stuff you may need to set some limits, you have to stop doing some things which are not important to you.
DON'T MAKE MOUTAINS OUT OF MOLE HILLS. This can create unnecessary stress. When facing what looks like a mountain or big deal, ask yourself this question "Does someone on this planet has a worse problem than me? Wil this matter after 5 years?"
ACCEPT. Acceptance of others, like their looks, their beliefs, their behavior, their character; instead of harboring anger and resentment in your heart, can bring you inner peace and tranquility.
FORGIVE. Inner peace can be reached when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past. By accepting what it is; much easier to let go of things and to forgive of what had happened.
Forgiveness is important because as long as you don't forgive someone you are still linked to that person. You are always be bothered thinking on how that person has hurt you. The emotional link between the two of you is strong and inflict much suffering in you. When you forgive you do not only release the other person, but you also set yourself free.
DO WHAT YOU ENJOY. If you're happy of what you are doing, you'll like yourself and you'll attain inner peace. When you enjoy what you do, inner peace simultaneously follow. Having inner peace leads you in alignment to the outer world, more success in life is in the offing.
BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR INNER PEACE. Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and calmly in spririt. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset. Live in the present moment. Let not negative thinking about the future bothers you. It's one of the greatest culprits that can rob you of your inner peace.
Monday, January 31, 2011
A sad story with A Happy Ending
Why do wives hang on to their husbands even when they have caught them fooling around? Is it because of pride? Or they may still be in love, or are clinging to the hope that things would eventually work out? We had a conversation with such a woman, and her tale is as touching as it is remarkable. It is a story of courage and conviction. And the best part is she had the last laugh. We shall call her Tessie.
You knew that your husband was fooling around. Why didn't you leave him?
Because I loved him.
Were you not hurt? Are you a "dakilang martir'?
I was hurt but I am not a martyr. It bothered me but it did not affect me. There were also the children that I had to consider. This is not an excuse for being a martyr as some feminists might accuse me of. When I said my marriage vows, I had two responsibilities; one was to my husband, and the other was to the children we planned to have. I didn't want my children to come from or grow up in a broken home.
Were you not jealous of the other woman?
Woman? There were women, not just one woman!
So, were you hurt more because there were many of them? Or is the pain the same whether one or many?
The pain is only in the beginning. It did hurt a lot. If not, it meant then that I was not in love with him. But as time went by, it didn't cause me any pain anymore.
Why? Did you finally fall out of love with him?
I still love him but I was not anymore in love with him. We still lived together but he started to drift away from me emotionally. He had his own other life and I had mine. I guess the pain was not that harsh because I knew that he didn't love all the other women. He may have fallen out of love with me but he didn't fall in love with any of the others. (sighs) Yes, there was pain at the start because I suspected he was in love with another woman. But as time went by, I realized that there were many women but he was not in love (with them). (But) he was still a good father to our children. God knows how I tried to make our marriage also work. Then the children grew up. So, I started to have my own life not because he was not there by me emotionally but because my children had their own lives. They were married and I became a grandmother. I had my first grandchild. I then thought that now, I could start living my own life. I found happiness in other things in life.
You never feared that hew would leave you one day?
No, because he did have a pattern of having one woman after another. I also knew that he was having an affair with several women simultaneously. It was just sex for him.
Didn't that hurt you?
It's all a matter of attitude. For me, his women were prostitutes. I don't mean prostitutes, like street walkers. They were decent women: one was his secretary, another was a good friend of mine, and so on. They were educated women but for me they were like prostitutes as in rendering him sexual services that he constantly needed. I guess they all hoped to get paid back with his love but it never happened.
But didn't the mere fact that he was having sex with the other women bother you at all?
No. His women came and went. We had our children and that was my happiness. I am the kind of woman who had sex to procreate and not to satisfy my animal instincts. My children gave me more satisfaction than the I act I had to go through to create them. Please don't misunderstand me, too. I am not the religious type. I just knew my priorities. I could have given him the sex he needed but it was obvious at a certain point our marriage that he needed something new. For him, I was like a broken-down car and he needed new and faster cars.
You never found him to be extra baggage? You are wealthy and so is your husband. You could have left him.
The straw that broke the camel's back was when he told me I could have my own extramarital affairs.
Yeepeee! Isn't that great! You could also eat your cake now, too!
No. This was when I finally put my foot down.
Why? He was being honest and fair.
Sex was never my priority so I never thought of getting even with him my having affairs. He may not have loved me anymore, which was fine. For me but when he told me to have sex with other men, that was the end of the line. I didn't want to be like him. He did things to me that would have made other women dump their husbands from the very beginning. But I still had respect for him as the father of our children, not as a husband, and that was my choice. But when he even entertained the slightest thought that I should have sex with other men, he had no respect for me anymore because it was his choice, not mine. I was a happy woman because everything I did was of my choice. I was not insulted because he entertained this thought, but I was annoyed he didn't realize that everything I did was of my choice. I finally asked him to leave the house.
What happened then? Did he remarry?
I set him up in one of our houses. He still had one woman after another. But we were finally physically separated.
Were you happier? What happened?
He had a stroke, got semi-paralyzed and I took him back to take care of him again.
Huh?
I know what you're thinking of that I still loved him. Yes, I did love him but just like the love I have for my children. Nothing sexual. Maybe I should have been a caregiver? (laughter) After several months, I realized that he was still unhappy so I told him to move back to his place again and we both agreed. I knew he was happier there. No big deal on my part. We were both happy.
And then?
He then had a heart attack and died. I was still close to his family. His parents passed away a few years after. I have never remarried and I still enjoy the life I have.
Do you consider yourself lucky that he never remarried despite the kind of arrangement you had?
I was a very happy person despite his behavior. I understood him and myself very well.
Oh I know where you're coming from, but...
You know what the biggest surprise was? (After they died) my parents-in-law did not leave anything even for our children. We were not in their will. It was not like I expected something from them. We did not need it and neither did my children. It was all given to my brothers- and sisters-in-law who gave me the equal and fair share of my husband. That made me cry. I guess my parents-in-law thought that I would remarry one day but I haven't and I don't intend to. I have always been a happy woman and still am a very happy woman.
Glad to hear that. I know of many women who think they are nothing without a man.
Well, I am not (like) anyone of them. Before I married and when I was married and even after my husband died I always counted my blessings, and not my blessings with a man or the blessings a man gave me. Those where never counted scores in my life.
You knew that your husband was fooling around. Why didn't you leave him?
Because I loved him.
Were you not hurt? Are you a "dakilang martir'?
I was hurt but I am not a martyr. It bothered me but it did not affect me. There were also the children that I had to consider. This is not an excuse for being a martyr as some feminists might accuse me of. When I said my marriage vows, I had two responsibilities; one was to my husband, and the other was to the children we planned to have. I didn't want my children to come from or grow up in a broken home.
Were you not jealous of the other woman?
Woman? There were women, not just one woman!
So, were you hurt more because there were many of them? Or is the pain the same whether one or many?
The pain is only in the beginning. It did hurt a lot. If not, it meant then that I was not in love with him. But as time went by, it didn't cause me any pain anymore.
Why? Did you finally fall out of love with him?
I still love him but I was not anymore in love with him. We still lived together but he started to drift away from me emotionally. He had his own other life and I had mine. I guess the pain was not that harsh because I knew that he didn't love all the other women. He may have fallen out of love with me but he didn't fall in love with any of the others. (sighs) Yes, there was pain at the start because I suspected he was in love with another woman. But as time went by, I realized that there were many women but he was not in love (with them). (But) he was still a good father to our children. God knows how I tried to make our marriage also work. Then the children grew up. So, I started to have my own life not because he was not there by me emotionally but because my children had their own lives. They were married and I became a grandmother. I had my first grandchild. I then thought that now, I could start living my own life. I found happiness in other things in life.
You never feared that hew would leave you one day?
No, because he did have a pattern of having one woman after another. I also knew that he was having an affair with several women simultaneously. It was just sex for him.
Didn't that hurt you?
It's all a matter of attitude. For me, his women were prostitutes. I don't mean prostitutes, like street walkers. They were decent women: one was his secretary, another was a good friend of mine, and so on. They were educated women but for me they were like prostitutes as in rendering him sexual services that he constantly needed. I guess they all hoped to get paid back with his love but it never happened.
But didn't the mere fact that he was having sex with the other women bother you at all?
No. His women came and went. We had our children and that was my happiness. I am the kind of woman who had sex to procreate and not to satisfy my animal instincts. My children gave me more satisfaction than the I act I had to go through to create them. Please don't misunderstand me, too. I am not the religious type. I just knew my priorities. I could have given him the sex he needed but it was obvious at a certain point our marriage that he needed something new. For him, I was like a broken-down car and he needed new and faster cars.
You never found him to be extra baggage? You are wealthy and so is your husband. You could have left him.
The straw that broke the camel's back was when he told me I could have my own extramarital affairs.
Yeepeee! Isn't that great! You could also eat your cake now, too!
No. This was when I finally put my foot down.
Why? He was being honest and fair.
Sex was never my priority so I never thought of getting even with him my having affairs. He may not have loved me anymore, which was fine. For me but when he told me to have sex with other men, that was the end of the line. I didn't want to be like him. He did things to me that would have made other women dump their husbands from the very beginning. But I still had respect for him as the father of our children, not as a husband, and that was my choice. But when he even entertained the slightest thought that I should have sex with other men, he had no respect for me anymore because it was his choice, not mine. I was a happy woman because everything I did was of my choice. I was not insulted because he entertained this thought, but I was annoyed he didn't realize that everything I did was of my choice. I finally asked him to leave the house.
What happened then? Did he remarry?
I set him up in one of our houses. He still had one woman after another. But we were finally physically separated.
Were you happier? What happened?
He had a stroke, got semi-paralyzed and I took him back to take care of him again.
Huh?
I know what you're thinking of that I still loved him. Yes, I did love him but just like the love I have for my children. Nothing sexual. Maybe I should have been a caregiver? (laughter) After several months, I realized that he was still unhappy so I told him to move back to his place again and we both agreed. I knew he was happier there. No big deal on my part. We were both happy.
And then?
He then had a heart attack and died. I was still close to his family. His parents passed away a few years after. I have never remarried and I still enjoy the life I have.
Do you consider yourself lucky that he never remarried despite the kind of arrangement you had?
I was a very happy person despite his behavior. I understood him and myself very well.
Oh I know where you're coming from, but...
You know what the biggest surprise was? (After they died) my parents-in-law did not leave anything even for our children. We were not in their will. It was not like I expected something from them. We did not need it and neither did my children. It was all given to my brothers- and sisters-in-law who gave me the equal and fair share of my husband. That made me cry. I guess my parents-in-law thought that I would remarry one day but I haven't and I don't intend to. I have always been a happy woman and still am a very happy woman.
Glad to hear that. I know of many women who think they are nothing without a man.
Well, I am not (like) anyone of them. Before I married and when I was married and even after my husband died I always counted my blessings, and not my blessings with a man or the blessings a man gave me. Those where never counted scores in my life.
Freedom - at what cost?
Let me tell you a story: The owner of two small birds left the door of the cage open after feeding them. One of them flew out like a bullet to seek freedom. The bird hit the opposite wall and died instantly. The bird that stayed behind had another partner to share its captivity for the rest of its life.
Sometimes, freedom is not a good proposition. It comes at a very high price. It spells the same thing, whether it is animals or humans.
I had the privilege of meeting a young girl who shared a secret with me. She had a very domineering father. He considered it a curse to have four daughters. He blamed his wife for it. So he locked them up in the house most of their lives. When he died, his family actually celebrated the occasion. Freedom at last after years of oppression as the cage door flew open! The old man was wealthy and the family suddenly had access to his hidden cash.
Three months later, the first disaster struck the family. The second daughter, after getting her driving license, bought a new car from her inheritance. Just like the little bird, shew flew over the bridge after losing control of her car.
Weeks later, the third daughter died of pneumonia after a visit to East Africa. Then the first daughter got a divorce, and a year later, the mother died after a short illness. In less than two years, there was a complete family, though locked up but they had each other. Perhaps the man was a monster. Her two surviving daughters would never know. I refrained from asking the question that I was dying to know the answer to - did she blame her father? Due to the sensitivity involved, I thought I had better not. All she wanted was a sympathetic ear. That was five years ago. She and her sister have rebuilt their lives and moved on. You might say that I am justifying men who deprive their family of basic needs. I am not. I have only one daughter, and she gets away with murder when I am around. She would probably grow up to think it is her privilege to mess around. She might even blame me for it when I am gone.
There are unseen cages everywhere. They are not erected by steel bars, but by threats, aggression or other tyrannical methods. They all mean the same thing. But the worst prisons are built by walls of emotion. Almost every other marriage we know is being held at ransom by emotional blackmail. Either the husband does not get to do things he liked as a bachelor or the wife stops seeing her old friends.
The first person who coined the phrase 'free as a bird' must have been a very miserable creature. He gave so much of importance to the word that he lost his bearings in life. The truth is, all of us bet on the fast horse. But it is the slow horse that burns the candle of energy longer. Freedom usually means running as fast as our legs can take us, perhaps never reaching our destination.
Sometimes, staying behind does not mean being locked up. The catch is that it takes wisdom to know the difference between the two. If you are not sure, just bide your time and wait a little longer. Patience never fails anyone. The saints from all religions preached it. But who listens to Godly words these days anyway?
Sometimes, freedom is not a good proposition. It comes at a very high price. It spells the same thing, whether it is animals or humans.
I had the privilege of meeting a young girl who shared a secret with me. She had a very domineering father. He considered it a curse to have four daughters. He blamed his wife for it. So he locked them up in the house most of their lives. When he died, his family actually celebrated the occasion. Freedom at last after years of oppression as the cage door flew open! The old man was wealthy and the family suddenly had access to his hidden cash.
Three months later, the first disaster struck the family. The second daughter, after getting her driving license, bought a new car from her inheritance. Just like the little bird, shew flew over the bridge after losing control of her car.
Weeks later, the third daughter died of pneumonia after a visit to East Africa. Then the first daughter got a divorce, and a year later, the mother died after a short illness. In less than two years, there was a complete family, though locked up but they had each other. Perhaps the man was a monster. Her two surviving daughters would never know. I refrained from asking the question that I was dying to know the answer to - did she blame her father? Due to the sensitivity involved, I thought I had better not. All she wanted was a sympathetic ear. That was five years ago. She and her sister have rebuilt their lives and moved on. You might say that I am justifying men who deprive their family of basic needs. I am not. I have only one daughter, and she gets away with murder when I am around. She would probably grow up to think it is her privilege to mess around. She might even blame me for it when I am gone.
There are unseen cages everywhere. They are not erected by steel bars, but by threats, aggression or other tyrannical methods. They all mean the same thing. But the worst prisons are built by walls of emotion. Almost every other marriage we know is being held at ransom by emotional blackmail. Either the husband does not get to do things he liked as a bachelor or the wife stops seeing her old friends.
The first person who coined the phrase 'free as a bird' must have been a very miserable creature. He gave so much of importance to the word that he lost his bearings in life. The truth is, all of us bet on the fast horse. But it is the slow horse that burns the candle of energy longer. Freedom usually means running as fast as our legs can take us, perhaps never reaching our destination.
Sometimes, staying behind does not mean being locked up. The catch is that it takes wisdom to know the difference between the two. If you are not sure, just bide your time and wait a little longer. Patience never fails anyone. The saints from all religions preached it. But who listens to Godly words these days anyway?
Friday, January 14, 2011
My 2011 plans, resolutions, wishes, prayers, hopes and dreams!
KUNG MADAUN KOG WORK END OF JANUARY MAO NI AKONG PLANS
get serious if ever naa nako work, work and i shud work hard, trust d Lord and trust yourself
be resourceful, time management and find to relax
take civil service exam if ever dili ka pasar this time kinahanglan pasaron naa si glenn mutudlo or magreview
after 6months kung makapasar maghiring hiring og item sa cebu city hall or capitol unya concentrate sa work nga makakat.on
kung makawork nako mu vacay ko sa manila ig april sa pasko sa kasakit puhon nya puhon sa manila ko magchristmas or new yr...
KUNG DILI KO MADAUN WORK SA GOVT. SA JANUARY MAO NI AKONG PLAN
kung wla pa balita til january 15 ky start nako concentrate plano og ngita work
aply ko starting end of january til march huwat ko if makawork ko
kung makawork ko ky concentrate jud sa work, nya try take civil service sa april nya kung makapasar which is ang result sa sept. try apply sa cebu. govt.
KUNG DILI PAJUDKO KA WORK UG KUNG ADTO KO SA MANILA KAY
take didto online civil service exam
apply2x ko sa manila ginagmay til puhon makasakay si glenn
uli dri if makasakay na si glenn try apply sa call center or govt. adto cebu stay if ever wla pako baby mag ladies dorm...
manglibre sa akng b.day sa ogis
take a summer vacation bohol, boracay or palawan, kanang naa na si glenn
spend time with glenn and his friends kung muoli na cya
skuyla voice lesson or b.a
palit ko sony camera/dlsr or cel
palimypyo sa ngipon, papasta, pa breeze, pa rebond,
exercise and eat right ayaw pgdiet kaon sa sakto og kanang less sugar og parat og aslum
papeles, marriage contract
apelyido sss og i.d
nso marriage
ad2 nla myra og laila
read sa books
RESOLUTION:
To always look good no matter what the situation is, if anything bothers don't mind, divert your thinking
into acting DO SOMETHING valuable or important not only to divert your attention but to inhance your personality skills talents and intellegence.
TIME MANAGEMENT AND ORGANIZATION
EATING HABIT - exercise and eat right no diet just eat right!
DOING SOMETHING IMPORTANT DILI MAG SLACK OR BUM
to give time to family and friends! they are the ones who's always there for you.
dili manglibak sa uban pasagda.i if naa gusto i istorya storya nga naay sense og naay unod storya og goodthings and plans.
to give time to friends dili na magtapol or magkinuripot bisan once lang
do ur own thing, concentrate og dili magmind sa uban divert your attention into doing something
Hopes, Wishes and Prayers for 2011
Good health nako sa akong husband og sa among mga pamilya
Protection sa matag.usa
Love, Peace and understanding
Guidance and Wisdom
Forgiveness...
get serious if ever naa nako work, work and i shud work hard, trust d Lord and trust yourself
be resourceful, time management and find to relax
take civil service exam if ever dili ka pasar this time kinahanglan pasaron naa si glenn mutudlo or magreview
after 6months kung makapasar maghiring hiring og item sa cebu city hall or capitol unya concentrate sa work nga makakat.on
kung makawork nako mu vacay ko sa manila ig april sa pasko sa kasakit puhon nya puhon sa manila ko magchristmas or new yr...
KUNG DILI KO MADAUN WORK SA GOVT. SA JANUARY MAO NI AKONG PLAN
kung wla pa balita til january 15 ky start nako concentrate plano og ngita work
aply ko starting end of january til march huwat ko if makawork ko
kung makawork ko ky concentrate jud sa work, nya try take civil service sa april nya kung makapasar which is ang result sa sept. try apply sa cebu. govt.
KUNG DILI PAJUDKO KA WORK UG KUNG ADTO KO SA MANILA KAY
take didto online civil service exam
apply2x ko sa manila ginagmay til puhon makasakay si glenn
uli dri if makasakay na si glenn try apply sa call center or govt. adto cebu stay if ever wla pako baby mag ladies dorm...
manglibre sa akng b.day sa ogis
take a summer vacation bohol, boracay or palawan, kanang naa na si glenn
spend time with glenn and his friends kung muoli na cya
skuyla voice lesson or b.a
palit ko sony camera/dlsr or cel
palimypyo sa ngipon, papasta, pa breeze, pa rebond,
exercise and eat right ayaw pgdiet kaon sa sakto og kanang less sugar og parat og aslum
papeles, marriage contract
apelyido sss og i.d
nso marriage
ad2 nla myra og laila
read sa books
RESOLUTION:
To always look good no matter what the situation is, if anything bothers don't mind, divert your thinking
into acting DO SOMETHING valuable or important not only to divert your attention but to inhance your personality skills talents and intellegence.
TIME MANAGEMENT AND ORGANIZATION
EATING HABIT - exercise and eat right no diet just eat right!
DOING SOMETHING IMPORTANT DILI MAG SLACK OR BUM
to give time to family and friends! they are the ones who's always there for you.
dili manglibak sa uban pasagda.i if naa gusto i istorya storya nga naay sense og naay unod storya og goodthings and plans.
to give time to friends dili na magtapol or magkinuripot bisan once lang
do ur own thing, concentrate og dili magmind sa uban divert your attention into doing something
Hopes, Wishes and Prayers for 2011
Good health nako sa akong husband og sa among mga pamilya
Protection sa matag.usa
Love, Peace and understanding
Guidance and Wisdom
Forgiveness...
2010 Memories....
2010 give me, my husband and each of our family a hope. God is so Good that despite everything He never leave us. This is the year wherein God gave me and my husband many reasons to start anew. God blessed us so many things and grant each of our desires, not to mention His constant Love, peace, understanding, another year to live, good health, guidance, wisdom and also He provided and fulfilled my husband's desire (Glenn) to work abroad. He answered our prayer that everything went smoothly in my husbands application despite of the "just-a-little" problem about his health but at least na ok man cya naa may option og gi-grantan man cya. He continue to bless our relationship with much love and more understanding. Another thing is... my husband allowed me to stay here in Danao, I've got a lot of "Me" time and being able to know myself more is a blessing, I get to have time with my family, Glenn gave me laptop, what else could be next? hmmm thinking! hehe, and lastly God shower me with His mercy I hope this one is His another blessing of giving "me" specially and my husband another chance to fully start a new this is just another step, Lord thy will be done ikaw na bahala ani Lord sa akong work opportunity, I'm praying that If you'll grant me this, all I need is your guidance wisdom peace good health and strength but kung unsa man gani Lord ang outcome ikaw na bahala sa akoa, Amen... Usa pud diay Lord sa akng ipagpasalamat ky nakig ok na akng mga igsuon nako Lord kabalo ko Lord dili sayon e-deal each one of them ky naa sa genes namu ang mga batasan pero Lord ako lang jud ampo nga guidance lang jud og wisdom og peace og understanding ang ihatag nimu nako Lord to deal with them... bsta Lord salamat kau sa good health namu tanan 1st family nako og 2nd family Lord sa side ni Glenn, daun Lord salamat kaau Lord na surpass namu ang k2 regarding ka Chiqui Lord sa dengue daun Lord sa condition ni Glenn Lord sa medical, ako lng ginaampo Lord nga bisan paman sa among pagkukulang we ask for forgiveness og Lord ikaw na bahala namu Lord wala mi mabuhat kung wala ka. Thank you Lord for all of this. Amen!
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Nganu?!
Makalibog, pero nganung naa may mga tawo nga bisag unta malipay kung unsa imu nakabat.ot or kung unsay maaung mahitabo sa imung kinabuhi sa umaabot ky mag.guol man sila og usahay manghinaot pa nga dili lang unta mahitabo ng maau nga butang sa imung kinabuhi, it seems like mura kag gi curse, makaguol pero nganu man? mga tawo nga you thought malipay kung unsa may maaung mahitabo sa imung kinabuhi pero dili diay, kay ikaguol diay to nila, makasubo pamalandungon.
Lesson Learned: Kung naay maayo nga balita or nahitabo sa imung kinabuhi, tell it to those person you trust and those person nga you think who would be happy for you and support you all the way.. Not those person who has a grudge on you or those who hate you seeing succeed.
Lesson Learned: Kung naay maayo nga balita or nahitabo sa imung kinabuhi, tell it to those person you trust and those person nga you think who would be happy for you and support you all the way.. Not those person who has a grudge on you or those who hate you seeing succeed.
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